A short, short and magical word.
The "no". "No" liberates and places firm, determined limits on human relationships. It declares a clear stance on a situation and makes your voice heard.
Μέσω της μικρής αυτής λέξης, συνειδητοποιείς πως η φωνή σου έχει δύναμη και πως η ίδια σου η φωνή σε προφυλάσσει.
"To be yourself in a world that wants you to be something else is the greatest achievement" Emerson.
So, the next time you say "yes" to a proposal, make sure you mean it with all your heart. That yes, you want it, you want to try it, it works for you! So that, your "yes" doesn't hide within it a "no" that was never said.
Remember that "no" does not necessarily mean conflict. Quite the opposite: it helps to form healthy and balanced relationships based on truth. With healthy boundaries.
Check out here the video on limits and the small, magical "no".
The "no" said consciously, stops feeding the fear of loneliness - what if I say no and end up alone?-, the worry of rejection and of not letting someone down. In fact, saying "no" is comforting because the other side knows where you are and what you want.
"No" is not always said in words. There are too many ways to show that you don't like something, don't want it, don't need it. With your body, with your look, with your whole attitude towards a situation.
Attention! Don't say no when you mean yes. Double messages confuse both your subconscious and the other person.
Many times, taking a "no" from someone can make us stronger and ultimately help us become even better. The "no" can be used as an opportunity to grow, to move towards where we want to go and ultimately succeed in getting there, full of confidence.
So, when you feel that something doesn't work for you, say so. You never know how much the other person might evolve from hearing a "no".
Of course, you don't have to start saying more "no" than you mean just to set boundaries that don't really exist for you. All in moderation, consciously and from your heart.
Even if some people won't like it if you tell them "no", set your boundaries, it's okay. You'll clear some space from your life to fill the space again with people who truly love you for who you are and understand the power of your voice and the freedom to choose what you want.
Healthy personal boundaries build real relationships that stand the test of time. Relationships that you enjoy being in. And those are the relationships you truly deserve.
Remember: I am here to see with you how you can learn to set your limits, in a life that you will be the creator of!
Personal and professional development coach
